BOOK REVIEW: They/Them/Their by Eris Young

BOOK REVIEW: They/Them/Their by Eric Young

BOOK REVIEW: They/Them/Their by Eris Young

They/Them/Their: A Guide to Nonbinary and Genderqueer Identities

Eris Young

This excellent, engaging and straight (ouch) forward book is insightful and long-overdue. Author Eris Young explores what it’s like to live outside of the gender binary and how it can impact on relationships, sense of identity, use of language and the way other people treat you.

Drawing on the author’s personal experiences as nonbinary immersing themselves in friendly on-line communities filled with rich learning, as well as interviews and research, it shares common experiences and challenges faced by those who are nonbinary. The books also explores some practical and considerate ways in which Cis friends, family and other people can learn fundamental ways of support.

200 years ago, Jane Austen used they-them as the gender-non-specific pronoun 75 times across all their novels & ‘they’ as a singular pronoun was the Middle English custom, so this is nothing new to English as it is used and spoken.

With humour the author dismantles misconceptions and provides easy to understand definitions. Chapters explore the history of nonbinary identities and gender-neutral language, and there is useful information on healthcare, law & language. The books been nominated for a few awards Dear Reader as it’s the perfect holistic guide to nonbinary & genderqueer identities.

Out now £16.99

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