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# "I miss him dearly every day": Paul O’Grady’s widower announces star's grave now bears loving headstone
- URL: https://www.scenemag.co.uk/i-miss-him-dearly-every-day-paul-ogradys-widower-announces-stars-grave-now-bears-loving-headstone/
- Published: 2025-10-08T08:34:48.000Z
- Updated: 2025-10-08T08:34:48.000Z
- Author: Graham Robson
- Tags: UK

**Paul O’Grady**’s widower **Andre Portasio** has shared a photo of the star's headstone and posted an emotional tribute on Instagram. 

O'Grady, who who won the hearts of millions through his work as a television presenter, comedian and drag performer under the persona **Lily Savage** died aged 67 at his home in Kent. He was laid to rest the following month in **St Rumwold’s Churchyard** in **Bonnington**, Kent.

Until now, his grave had been marked only with wooden crosses and ornaments. But following a lengthy application process, O’Grady’s widower, **Andre Portasio**, announced via the late star’s Instagram account that the final design of the headstone has been placed.

> [ View this post on Instagram ](https://www.instagram.com/p/DPWDknxDuYy/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading)
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> [A post shared by Paul O’Grady (@paulogrady)](https://www.instagram.com/p/DPWDknxDuYy/?utm%5Fsource=ig%5Fembed&utm%5Fcampaign=loading)

The dark grey headstone bears Paul’s name alongside that of his former long-term partner, **Brendan Murphy**, who died in 2005 from an inoperable brain tumour and is buried beside him. It also features a figurine of Paul’s beloved dog Buster and one of his favourite quotes from philosopher **Michel de Montaigne**: *“*The greatest thing in the world is to know how to be one’s own self.”

Portasio expressed his gratitude to the **Commissary Court of the Diocese of Canterbury**, the **Parish of Bonnington** and the **Church of St Rumwold** for approving the design. He also thanked **Robin Hopkins**, Commissary General of the Diocese, for allowing the inclusion of the Buster replica, similar to the one at **Battersea Dogs & Cats Home**, where O’Grady was a devoted ambassador.

“I miss him dearly every day,” Portasio wrote, “but I am grateful that his resting place is now complete. I hope he would be pleased with the final design.”

Fans responded with heartfelt messages, praising the inclusion of Murphy and Buster as a touching and selfless tribute to a man who brought joy, compassion, and laughter to so many.